Welcome guys. We are glad to see that you have stopped by our site. The site is here to help show men the effects of rape on women as well as ways to prevent rape and sexual assault from happening. Ultimately the power to stop sexual assault is in our hands. The fact that you are reading this page now shows that you want to help in this fight. Sexual assault is something that can be easily avoided, but all too often we are not aware that our actions constitute rape and unfortunately some men do not seem to care. All of us here at TMAR understand how difficult it can be when dealing with sexual issues, whether it be mixed signals or being turned down. That is why we are here; to let you know, as males, that you can overcome it.

So here we are going to offer you some advice to help you avoid sexual assault.

First off, we know that you have heard this a million times, but it is the most important thing:

NO MEANS NO!

Clarify consent when you are with your partner and you think that there is ANY question of sexual intercourse. If they say "No," it is in your best interest to listen and stop. It may ruin the mood, but you'll thank yourself later. Even if they say "Yes," they have the right to say "No" at any time. This is not limited to the moments directly proceeding. If they have said that they want to all night, and even if you have had sex with them before, they can say "No." Do not be afraid to ask up front if there is any chance of sex. (You may save each other a lot of trouble.)

Mixed Signals
We know all of you guys have experienced this before. You see a girl in class or out at a bar or party and she smiles at you and maybe even starts to talk to you, or even worse she touches you.. What do you think? Yeah that's it: "She wants me." That may be true, but unfortunately that isn't always the case. Women can be very subtle at times. So, do not take what YOU might consider "come-ons" always as such. Take the time to find out if they are really interested. Just like above: clarify. If you find out they are interested in you, do not automatically assume that they want to have sex with you. Remember the key here: Clarify.

Alcohol and Date Rape Drugs
Well, let me start out that date rape drugs are strictly a no-no. Here is what you may not know though: Alcohol is a date rape drug just like rohypnol or GHB. Under the Louisiana law a person that has been drugged or is intoxicated cannot give legal consent to sex. That's what we said. Take a girl home after a fun night at the bar and have sex with her while she is still drunk and you may be getting yourself in trouble. If you think that she is under the influence, do not have sex. Yeah this puts a damper on the age old practice of guys and girls going out to have a drink to loosen their inhibitions so that we can all get to know each other better, but like we said above, alcohol is a date rape drug. So, don't risk it. Get their number and wait till they are sober and able to give honest (and legal) consent. There is the real challenge for you guys: It is not trying to get a girl home from the bar, but having her really want to get to know you.

She Was Asking For It
Do not even get us started on this one. As we said above, women are NEVER responsible for being raped. It doesn't matter how she dresses, how much she drank or how much she provoked and teased you. She does not deserve to be raped. When a women wants to have sex it is her choice when, where and with whom she will do it. Men have the same choice. You can't blame her. Stopping rape is solely in the hands of the male community.

What Sexual Violence Does to Women
Let talk not about hope to prevent sexual assault right now. Let us look at it from the other side. What kind of effects does rape have on women? Aside from the obvious and immediate physical and psychological effects, sexual assault will effect a woman for the rest of her life. Women that experience sexual assault have trouble keeping lasting relationship, and increased chances of depression and suicide. Not to mention that many survivors live in fear for the rest of their life. It is not something that just happens and they get over. And most importantly its not about the sex. A woman that has been raped has had her dignity, self esteem, security and trust of other people stripped away from her. Things that are not easy to get back.,

We hope that all of this information as helped open your eyes about sexual assault. We said it many times, it is only us that can stop rape. Remember that the next time you are with a girl. The victims of sexual assault are our friends, girl friends, wives, sisters and mothers. Hopefully we can all do our part and help each other and maybe just maybe end sexual violence.